Anger is a normal human emotion and can even be useful at times. However, when it becomes strong, frequent and lasts for a long time it can have a major impact upon relationships, studies, work and our general wellbeing. Following an angry episode we may feel guilty for our actions, we may feel low and consequently withdraw from others. Alternatively some people blame others for their anger and so may not have strong feelings of guilt.
When we experience anger a stress response in the body occurs which may be characterised by the following symptoms:
- Increase in blood pressure
- Increase in heart rate
- Breathing quickens
- Light headed
What Causes Anger?
Anger can be triggered when we feel we are not being treated fairly, when we feel we are being disrespected and when we feel we are being let down. Some people can react more strongly compared to others in such scenarios. They can even be quick to come to (sometimes erroneous) conclusions about another person’s behaviour towards them. This is because those who react more strongly may have had difficult early experiences (e.g. being treated unfairly, criticised frequently, been let down) and such scenarios trigger upsetting memories. The person may not even be aware that upsetting memories have been triggered.
Sometimes other difficult emotions underlie anger. Some people may be experiencing high stress levels, anxiety and/or low mood and struggle to manage these emotions and what results is an expression of anger. At times people can feel angry towards themselves but instead they direct this anger towards another person.
What Therapy for Anger Difficulties Involves
At Therapy Central, our therapists can help you to explore what might be contributing to your anger and address this. We can help you to identify the triggers to your anger so that you can take action to manage your anger before it escalates. We can also help you to learn coping strategies to use when your anger builds. Additionally, we can explore with you what thinking patterns and actions keep your anger going and help you to make positive changes to these.